Accept your self
'' whats done is done, you cant go back and change anything so you gotta work on what you've got which is ur self ... accept it ''
'' you don't have to improve or change or strive for perfection, quite the opposite, just accept and that includes all the warts and emotional lumps and bumps and weaknesses and the rest of it ''
'' accept some days you arent going to make it. some days you will , like all of us, fall far short and thats ok. dont beat yourself up. pick yourself up and start again. accept that you will fail from time to time and that you are human ''
'' stop giving yourself a hard time, instead accept that you are what you are abd you're doing the best you can at this point in time, so give yourself a pat on the back and press on ''
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you don;t need to be perfect .. being good is just enough
you will fail and that doesn\t mean that you are lacking something or that you need to change or something, its just part of life .. even the best fall down sometimes
you are who you are and thats just good enough
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Rule 3
Accept whats done is done
'' sometimes people make mistakes or behave badly towards you, it wasnt necessarily because they meant to be horrid, but because they were as naive as foolish as human as the rest of us,they didnt do it that way because they wanted it to be like this but simply, they didnt know any better ''
'' accept whats done is done, don't label them as '' bad '', embrace them as character forming and in general as a positive thing rather than nagative ''
'' if you want more out of this life, embrace all the bad things as being as important part of you and move on, you wouldn't be who you are today if you didn't go through them ''
'' if i was given the choice, i wouldn't change a thing , yes looking back, it was tough being the kid i was, living the life i did but it has certainly helped make me, me ''
'' i think the change occured once i realized tat even if i could in front of all the people who had done me wrong , there would still be nothing they could do . i could shout at them, rant at them but there would be nothing they could do to put things right ''
'' life goes on, there is no going backward, only forward .. keep moving forward ''
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the only way to forget is to forgive :)
'' sometimes people make mistakes or behave badly towards you, it wasnt necessarily because they meant to be horrid, but because they were as naive as foolish as human as the rest of us,they didnt do it that way because they wanted it to be like this but simply, they didnt know any better ''
'' accept whats done is done, don't label them as '' bad '', embrace them as character forming and in general as a positive thing rather than nagative ''
'' if you want more out of this life, embrace all the bad things as being as important part of you and move on, you wouldn't be who you are today if you didn't go through them ''
'' if i was given the choice, i wouldn't change a thing , yes looking back, it was tough being the kid i was, living the life i did but it has certainly helped make me, me ''
'' i think the change occured once i realized tat even if i could in front of all the people who had done me wrong , there would still be nothing they could do . i could shout at them, rant at them but there would be nothing they could do to put things right ''
'' life goes on, there is no going backward, only forward .. keep moving forward ''
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the only way to forget is to forgive :)
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Rule 2: You'll get older but not necessarily wiser
'' theres an assumption that as we get older, we will get wiser; not true. the rule is we carry on being just as daft and still making plenty of mistakes, its just we make NEW ones, different ones. we do learn from exprience and may not make the same mistakes again, but there's a whole new pickle jar of fresh ones just laying in wait for us to trip and fall into ''
'' the secret is to accept this and dont beat yourself up when u do make new ones. be forgiving and accept that its all part of that growing older but not wiser routine ''
'' wisdon isnt about not making mistakes, but about learning to escape afterwards with our dignity and sanity intact ''
'' after all, the more mistakes you've made, the less likely you\ll come up with new ones, so the best thing is that if you get alot of mistakes done with early on life, there will be less to learn the hard way later on ''
'' thats what youth is all about, a chance to make all the mistakes you can and get them out of the way ''
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i really love how it makes u think of mistakes .. making a mistake isnt something bad AT ALL .. mistakes means learning, learning means improvement, improvement is making a better you :) and there is no such a thing as a perfect person, YOU WILL MAKE MISTAKES untill the very last moment because u can never learn enough and there will always be more to learn in this life .. so go ahead and make mistakes, u wouldn't be who u are if u didnt make em ..
'' the secret is to accept this and dont beat yourself up when u do make new ones. be forgiving and accept that its all part of that growing older but not wiser routine ''
'' wisdon isnt about not making mistakes, but about learning to escape afterwards with our dignity and sanity intact ''
'' after all, the more mistakes you've made, the less likely you\ll come up with new ones, so the best thing is that if you get alot of mistakes done with early on life, there will be less to learn the hard way later on ''
'' thats what youth is all about, a chance to make all the mistakes you can and get them out of the way ''
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i really love how it makes u think of mistakes .. making a mistake isnt something bad AT ALL .. mistakes means learning, learning means improvement, improvement is making a better you :) and there is no such a thing as a perfect person, YOU WILL MAKE MISTAKES untill the very last moment because u can never learn enough and there will always be more to learn in this life .. so go ahead and make mistakes, u wouldn't be who u are if u didnt make em ..
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
The The Rules Of Life By Richard Templar :
this is one of the greatest books i've ever read .. you know, i don't believe in rules and self improvement and stuff but this book indeed opens ur eyes to alot of things you were not aware of you .. anyway i decided to share one lesson with u every day and there are 100 lessons here so lol u'll be hanging around here for a while , i mean if ur interested :P
Rule One : Keep it under your hat
'' keep quiet, no one likes a smart arse ''
'' we all hare being preached at so don't preach, propagate, even mention it , its a bit like when you give up smoking and you suddenly find this new heathier way of living and you want to convert all of your old smoking friends, trouble is, they aren't ready to quit yet and you find they label you as a smug or a prig and we all hate those ''
'' if anyone asks you a thing, just give them a simple answer, there's no need to go into details because its not what people want to know .. its a bit like when some one asks you how you are, what they want to really hear is one word '' fine '', even if you're in the bits of despair .. thats all they wanna hear because anything more than that requires committment on their part. if you don't say fine and u start unburden your self , they will back off pretty quickly . ''
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so don't ever talk as if you know everything .. if its a simple question, u give a simple answer .. no need to prove to the world that you're the smart pants here .. and don't talk about the things you are or the things u can do, some people might find this very interesting but most of people will get you wrong and would think of you as a snob .. so KEEP IT UNDER YOUR HAT, no body needs to know anything UNLESS they ask for it
Rule One : Keep it under your hat
'' keep quiet, no one likes a smart arse ''
'' we all hare being preached at so don't preach, propagate, even mention it , its a bit like when you give up smoking and you suddenly find this new heathier way of living and you want to convert all of your old smoking friends, trouble is, they aren't ready to quit yet and you find they label you as a smug or a prig and we all hate those ''
'' if anyone asks you a thing, just give them a simple answer, there's no need to go into details because its not what people want to know .. its a bit like when some one asks you how you are, what they want to really hear is one word '' fine '', even if you're in the bits of despair .. thats all they wanna hear because anything more than that requires committment on their part. if you don't say fine and u start unburden your self , they will back off pretty quickly . ''
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so don't ever talk as if you know everything .. if its a simple question, u give a simple answer .. no need to prove to the world that you're the smart pants here .. and don't talk about the things you are or the things u can do, some people might find this very interesting but most of people will get you wrong and would think of you as a snob .. so KEEP IT UNDER YOUR HAT, no body needs to know anything UNLESS they ask for it
Saturday, October 11, 2008
Unforgiveable Stupidity
you know, i can be stupid sometimes .. in fact, I play stupid alot because it helps you to see the true color of people .. but i never imagined that i could be THAT STUPID ....
my mum has been sick for too long now. her immunity is somehow low and she's always getting sick and stuff .. she has done so many tests and all of them were nagative yet she's always weak and sick .. anyway, during a lung C.T scan, some kind of a lesion was discovered in her liver .. and the doctor referred her to a specialist for investigations .. it has been 3 months and my mum hasn't seen that doctor yet coz basically, she's too lazy to go ...
as a medical student, i had my own worries because that lesion looked suspicious and considering my family history of cancer, i was even more worried .. i've been nagging on her to see that doctor but she never listens and i had use plan Z since everything else failed .. plan Z is being honest .. i told her that there's a high chance that this lesion could be cancer and that liver cancer is one of the deadliest cancers ever.. i didnt want to be mean but she left me no choice .. as i was telling her this, i could see her face changing, her eyes started to get all teary and you could feel her chocking with her own words and suddenly she was all hugging my baby sister and stuff .. i think i freaked her out .. oh my god, what have i done? i didnt mean to, i didnt mean to !!
i'm feeling so bad, i cant believe that i brought tears to my mum's eyes .. you know, im dealing with so many patients with cancer right now, i have this particular lady, she's so sweet and friendly and she has cancer in her stomach but she doesn't know.. her family decided not to tell her yet and every time i'm around, she would invite me for a cup of tea and she would talk to me and stuff and sometimes, she would ask me to check her file and tell her whats in there !! and i always came up with stupid excuses not to check her file .. i would usually tell her that the doctors handwriting is too bad that i cant read it or i would deliberately mess with my mobile and pretend that i got a phone call and that i need to leave .. and i even started avoiding saying goodmorning to her to avoid her questions .. i can't risk telling her a thing .. imagine, i avoid saying hello just to make sure she's going to be ok ..
but with my own mum, i couldn't be more insensitive !! god ! i really hate my self at the moment !! i know , i did it for a good cause but NOT LIKE THAT ! god *bangs head on keyboard*
i feel so guilty and sorry and i cant even make things right since me and mum are not that close so if i go to her saying that i'm sorry and stuff, she's gonna think i've hit my head or something .. i've grown up away from them so i;ve grown up being cold .. I'M not cold, I'M NOT.. but i can't show emotions around them .. ahhh its kinda hard to explain .. but thats not the issue ..
i just feel bad for what i did .. this is not the kind of stupidity that i would enjoy .. kel shay wela dmo3 my parents :( ...
SOME BODY SHOOT ME !!
my mum has been sick for too long now. her immunity is somehow low and she's always getting sick and stuff .. she has done so many tests and all of them were nagative yet she's always weak and sick .. anyway, during a lung C.T scan, some kind of a lesion was discovered in her liver .. and the doctor referred her to a specialist for investigations .. it has been 3 months and my mum hasn't seen that doctor yet coz basically, she's too lazy to go ...
as a medical student, i had my own worries because that lesion looked suspicious and considering my family history of cancer, i was even more worried .. i've been nagging on her to see that doctor but she never listens and i had use plan Z since everything else failed .. plan Z is being honest .. i told her that there's a high chance that this lesion could be cancer and that liver cancer is one of the deadliest cancers ever.. i didnt want to be mean but she left me no choice .. as i was telling her this, i could see her face changing, her eyes started to get all teary and you could feel her chocking with her own words and suddenly she was all hugging my baby sister and stuff .. i think i freaked her out .. oh my god, what have i done? i didnt mean to, i didnt mean to !!
i'm feeling so bad, i cant believe that i brought tears to my mum's eyes .. you know, im dealing with so many patients with cancer right now, i have this particular lady, she's so sweet and friendly and she has cancer in her stomach but she doesn't know.. her family decided not to tell her yet and every time i'm around, she would invite me for a cup of tea and she would talk to me and stuff and sometimes, she would ask me to check her file and tell her whats in there !! and i always came up with stupid excuses not to check her file .. i would usually tell her that the doctors handwriting is too bad that i cant read it or i would deliberately mess with my mobile and pretend that i got a phone call and that i need to leave .. and i even started avoiding saying goodmorning to her to avoid her questions .. i can't risk telling her a thing .. imagine, i avoid saying hello just to make sure she's going to be ok ..
but with my own mum, i couldn't be more insensitive !! god ! i really hate my self at the moment !! i know , i did it for a good cause but NOT LIKE THAT ! god *bangs head on keyboard*
i feel so guilty and sorry and i cant even make things right since me and mum are not that close so if i go to her saying that i'm sorry and stuff, she's gonna think i've hit my head or something .. i've grown up away from them so i;ve grown up being cold .. I'M not cold, I'M NOT.. but i can't show emotions around them .. ahhh its kinda hard to explain .. but thats not the issue ..
i just feel bad for what i did .. this is not the kind of stupidity that i would enjoy .. kel shay wela dmo3 my parents :( ...
SOME BODY SHOOT ME !!
Friday, October 10, 2008
Guilty
I've always liked the fact that i do actually '' think ''.. and when i say think, i don't mean working out a problem or over thinking about life issues .. its more like meditation kind of thinking.. you know, when you take time to isolate yourself from everyone and just think about the world and stuff.. I've loved it because it made me feel deep and connected to everything around me, the sky .. the winds .. the moon.. the trees .. all kind of animals and insects but more importantly, human feelings .. to take time to put yourself in other people's shoes, to feel what they feel , to experience what they experience.. its such a great thing to learn and raise above it all with the lessons you get from these short moments of silence ...
i've drove my car all around seeking these kind of thoughts .. i re-lived my childhood joy by going to parks and seeing all these kids playing around.. i know how hard goodbyes can be by watching all these travellers in the airport. . i've known what it feels to be lonely just by sitting on the shore beside a broken hearted lover .. i've learnt what it means to be responsible by watching all these men doing hard labor work underneath this sun, just to earn enough for their families over seas... i know my family's worth after volunteering in the orphanage .. in every situation, in every place , in every face , i took my time to see whats beneath it .. i took my time to '' feel '' and think about it ... i enjoyed these moments .. i enjoyed being connected to everything .. i enjoyed being one with the world around me ..
but these thoughts started to be overwhelming .. more like a disease of a mind ... i think i lost control of it .. guilt started to build up .. and i don't know what to do .. lately, i've been feeling so guilty for having this life .. everytime i see some one's misfortune, i get this guilt .. i lost my uncle almost 3 weeks ago, he died leaving 4 kids .. untill today, i can't stop feeling guilty .. because i still have my parents and my 8 yr old cousin just lost her dad .. every time i'm in the hospital, i feel so wierd, so bad because i'm alright ( AL7MDALLAH ) while others are so sick and dieing ... i know that its not my fault and that this is the way life is, but i cant help it .. i guess i've crossed the safety line when i decided to connect my self with life around me ..
i need to step back a little before i lose my mind here ..
i've drove my car all around seeking these kind of thoughts .. i re-lived my childhood joy by going to parks and seeing all these kids playing around.. i know how hard goodbyes can be by watching all these travellers in the airport. . i've known what it feels to be lonely just by sitting on the shore beside a broken hearted lover .. i've learnt what it means to be responsible by watching all these men doing hard labor work underneath this sun, just to earn enough for their families over seas... i know my family's worth after volunteering in the orphanage .. in every situation, in every place , in every face , i took my time to see whats beneath it .. i took my time to '' feel '' and think about it ... i enjoyed these moments .. i enjoyed being connected to everything .. i enjoyed being one with the world around me ..
but these thoughts started to be overwhelming .. more like a disease of a mind ... i think i lost control of it .. guilt started to build up .. and i don't know what to do .. lately, i've been feeling so guilty for having this life .. everytime i see some one's misfortune, i get this guilt .. i lost my uncle almost 3 weeks ago, he died leaving 4 kids .. untill today, i can't stop feeling guilty .. because i still have my parents and my 8 yr old cousin just lost her dad .. every time i'm in the hospital, i feel so wierd, so bad because i'm alright ( AL7MDALLAH ) while others are so sick and dieing ... i know that its not my fault and that this is the way life is, but i cant help it .. i guess i've crossed the safety line when i decided to connect my self with life around me ..
i need to step back a little before i lose my mind here ..
When Angels are No Longer Angels ..
After 7 years of studying medicine, I realized that i was tricked. whoever said that doctors are angels of mercy is wrong indeed.
I know that doctors are humans too, they have emotions and reactions. Just like anyone else, they get happy, sad , depressed , angry..but is it ok for them to be cruel? to be insensitive? they are humans, aren't they ?
I've met some of the most insensitive doctors ever during my rotation but i thought that they are the bad apples among the rest of us, but i guess its true when they say one rotten apple can ruin the whole box of apples. because, these doctors have been increasing in numbers .. like its the new fashion or something !
although i'm 90% doctor ( lol one year to graduate :P ) but i'm afraid to say that i have no respect to doctors no more.. i don't respect people who don't respect others or respect the responsibility they have. Half of the treatment is psychological, and you are treating a living thing, you're not fixing a machine or something, so why be so cruel ? so insensitive ? it's really sad ..
one of the things that upsets me the most is the way doctors use patients to teach us. i know i know i should be glad that i get to practise on real patients BUT NOT LIKE THIS !!! these people are here because they are sick, because they need to rest and not to be flipped and tossed around by us . OK, we need to learn, i couldnt agree more ! couldn't you choose the ones who are less sick ? OR ATLEAST wait for the sick ones to get a LITTLE BIT BETTER !!! imagine, this old guy, with hundreds of tubes in his mouth and nose plus millions of monitors on him .. he can hardly breathe and he's in so much pain! and just because, he's too helpless that he can't say a word, the doctor comes in, expose him and just start explaining on him ! and if u take a look at the patient, you see a sad helpless look in his face and i've seen many patients shedding tears of helplessness ... you know i shouldn't be saying stuff like that but I'M SO ANGRY !! they cant do that to people ! you cant take advantage of their need to u and do whatever you wanna do to them !! thats just cruel !
and what drives me even more crazy, how they pick on non kuwaities !! if you're indian, thats it, you're the new genuie pig and you're not allowed to say no !!! HOW RACIST IS THAT !!
when you're a doctor, everyone is the same despite their gender, nationality or social status .. the poor filthy pakistani janitor should get the same treatment as a member of the royal family ! it doesn't matter who you are outside the hospital, INSIDE, you're a patient ! and ALL patients should be treated with justice and sympathy !
alot of people laugh at me when they hear me ranting about this. they think its nothing but a medical student excitement ! they say, a few years with patients should turn me into one of them... i don't think so .. this is not excitement .. this is humanity .. and i know that i'll have stressful days when i might snap at others but i'll never be as cruel as them .. you have no idea how hard i am on my self, wayed a7asib nafsi, sometimes even too much. so i don't think i'll get that '' insensitive doctors disease '' .. i sure hope i wont ..
this is a cry out for every medical student, doctors, nurses and care givers .. ALWAYS, put your self in your patients shoes .. ALWAYS ! and treat them the way you want to be treated then.
I know that doctors are humans too, they have emotions and reactions. Just like anyone else, they get happy, sad , depressed , angry..but is it ok for them to be cruel? to be insensitive? they are humans, aren't they ?
I've met some of the most insensitive doctors ever during my rotation but i thought that they are the bad apples among the rest of us, but i guess its true when they say one rotten apple can ruin the whole box of apples. because, these doctors have been increasing in numbers .. like its the new fashion or something !
although i'm 90% doctor ( lol one year to graduate :P ) but i'm afraid to say that i have no respect to doctors no more.. i don't respect people who don't respect others or respect the responsibility they have. Half of the treatment is psychological, and you are treating a living thing, you're not fixing a machine or something, so why be so cruel ? so insensitive ? it's really sad ..
one of the things that upsets me the most is the way doctors use patients to teach us. i know i know i should be glad that i get to practise on real patients BUT NOT LIKE THIS !!! these people are here because they are sick, because they need to rest and not to be flipped and tossed around by us . OK, we need to learn, i couldnt agree more ! couldn't you choose the ones who are less sick ? OR ATLEAST wait for the sick ones to get a LITTLE BIT BETTER !!! imagine, this old guy, with hundreds of tubes in his mouth and nose plus millions of monitors on him .. he can hardly breathe and he's in so much pain! and just because, he's too helpless that he can't say a word, the doctor comes in, expose him and just start explaining on him ! and if u take a look at the patient, you see a sad helpless look in his face and i've seen many patients shedding tears of helplessness ... you know i shouldn't be saying stuff like that but I'M SO ANGRY !! they cant do that to people ! you cant take advantage of their need to u and do whatever you wanna do to them !! thats just cruel !
and what drives me even more crazy, how they pick on non kuwaities !! if you're indian, thats it, you're the new genuie pig and you're not allowed to say no !!! HOW RACIST IS THAT !!
when you're a doctor, everyone is the same despite their gender, nationality or social status .. the poor filthy pakistani janitor should get the same treatment as a member of the royal family ! it doesn't matter who you are outside the hospital, INSIDE, you're a patient ! and ALL patients should be treated with justice and sympathy !
alot of people laugh at me when they hear me ranting about this. they think its nothing but a medical student excitement ! they say, a few years with patients should turn me into one of them... i don't think so .. this is not excitement .. this is humanity .. and i know that i'll have stressful days when i might snap at others but i'll never be as cruel as them .. you have no idea how hard i am on my self, wayed a7asib nafsi, sometimes even too much. so i don't think i'll get that '' insensitive doctors disease '' .. i sure hope i wont ..
this is a cry out for every medical student, doctors, nurses and care givers .. ALWAYS, put your self in your patients shoes .. ALWAYS ! and treat them the way you want to be treated then.
Monday, September 29, 2008
Yelling VS. Teaching
In anger management, there's this golden rule of '' counting 'till 10 before saying/doing anything '' . i've always laughed at it! I mean seriously, who would think about counting when you're so damn pissed off and i've considered it a crappy rule until today ..
you know, I LOVE MAKING MISTAKES, i really do enjoy them because, I end up learning different things .. yeah sometimes the price can be really expensive but in the long term, you'll get it all payed back with even capital '' fa2da '' .
Today, I proved my self wrong and i'm glad that I did :D ... I was invited for f6or over my aunt's house and i told her i'd prepare the salad ( fattah ) and the dessert ( mango cake ) . so i told the maid to cut and fry the eggplants for me since I'm busy working on my cake. It was already 5:10pm (f6or is at 5:40 ) when i was done from the cake and i went to check on my fattah and i was so shocked when i saw that the maid didn't do anything. i got really pissed and i started preparing everything quickly.. i had less than an hour to do the fattah, to shower and get dressed and be there at my aunt's house ( which is 15 min away ) SO AS U CAN SEE, I WAS RUNNING LOW ON TIME and i was all stressed and pissed .. so while i was cooking the stuff, i asked the maid to get me corn from the fridge so she started bringing out different stuff, tomatoes, olives, green pepper .. I GOT FURIOUS coz i was SO LATE and she was driving me even crazier .. when i was about to explode and scream, that little voice inside my head remainded me of the 10count rule ... 1..2..3..4..5..6..7..8..9..10 .. and right after that, i REALIZED something. the maid is NOT stupid, simply .. she's just new .. she came to kuwait less than a month ago .. she doesn't speak arabic or english.. she doesn't know what the hell CORN is.. SO IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW, you can't expect her to know what you didn't tell her .. so instead of yelling, i held her by her hand and took her to the fridge and showed her what corn is, what green pepper is, what olives are .. that's all she needed .. she didnt need to be yelled at .. its not her fault that she couldn't speak arabic and it wouldn't have helped any of us if i yelled ..
how many of you ever done that ? yelling at maids and calling them stupid because they didn't get what we are trying to say? haven't you ever thought about the possibility that it could be your fault ? maybe you didn't say it our clearly, or maybe she didn't understand what you wanted .. THEY CAN'T READ YOUR MIND AND THEY CAN'T COOK IT THE SAME WAY U DO!
I'm just so proud of my self that i didn't give in to anger, that i chose to teach instead of to yell. i've kept my cool and she added new voc to her dictionary .. its a win win deal :D
'' if you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundered days of sorrow ''..
learn how to be patient, how to see through the situation , there's always a lesson to learn
when you're angry, close your eyes, count till 10 and open them again and you'll be amazed of how differently you'll see the same situation :D
you doubt it ? why not give it a try ;) ?
you know, I LOVE MAKING MISTAKES, i really do enjoy them because, I end up learning different things .. yeah sometimes the price can be really expensive but in the long term, you'll get it all payed back with even capital '' fa2da '' .
Today, I proved my self wrong and i'm glad that I did :D ... I was invited for f6or over my aunt's house and i told her i'd prepare the salad ( fattah ) and the dessert ( mango cake ) . so i told the maid to cut and fry the eggplants for me since I'm busy working on my cake. It was already 5:10pm (f6or is at 5:40 ) when i was done from the cake and i went to check on my fattah and i was so shocked when i saw that the maid didn't do anything. i got really pissed and i started preparing everything quickly.. i had less than an hour to do the fattah, to shower and get dressed and be there at my aunt's house ( which is 15 min away ) SO AS U CAN SEE, I WAS RUNNING LOW ON TIME and i was all stressed and pissed .. so while i was cooking the stuff, i asked the maid to get me corn from the fridge so she started bringing out different stuff, tomatoes, olives, green pepper .. I GOT FURIOUS coz i was SO LATE and she was driving me even crazier .. when i was about to explode and scream, that little voice inside my head remainded me of the 10count rule ... 1..2..3..4..5..6..7..8..9..10 .. and right after that, i REALIZED something. the maid is NOT stupid, simply .. she's just new .. she came to kuwait less than a month ago .. she doesn't speak arabic or english.. she doesn't know what the hell CORN is.. SO IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW, you can't expect her to know what you didn't tell her .. so instead of yelling, i held her by her hand and took her to the fridge and showed her what corn is, what green pepper is, what olives are .. that's all she needed .. she didnt need to be yelled at .. its not her fault that she couldn't speak arabic and it wouldn't have helped any of us if i yelled ..
how many of you ever done that ? yelling at maids and calling them stupid because they didn't get what we are trying to say? haven't you ever thought about the possibility that it could be your fault ? maybe you didn't say it our clearly, or maybe she didn't understand what you wanted .. THEY CAN'T READ YOUR MIND AND THEY CAN'T COOK IT THE SAME WAY U DO!
I'm just so proud of my self that i didn't give in to anger, that i chose to teach instead of to yell. i've kept my cool and she added new voc to her dictionary .. its a win win deal :D
'' if you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundered days of sorrow ''..
learn how to be patient, how to see through the situation , there's always a lesson to learn
when you're angry, close your eyes, count till 10 and open them again and you'll be amazed of how differently you'll see the same situation :D
you doubt it ? why not give it a try ;) ?
Monday, January 22, 2007
Hall Of Fame
Da Freak, A.k.A : freakerz, freako, DeeJaY, Sweer.
- 30th of march 1985 - ?? of ???? 20?? ... ( with that level of insanity, i'll doubt i'll make it to 2020 alive :P )
- a dare devil, a rules breaker, too wild , too insane, has no limit ...
- Achievements :
- sky dive
- lived on my own
- scuba diving license
- 50 meter bungy jump
- 5 times skycoaster jumps
- wall climbing
- hiking
- white water rafting
- parachut jump
- paintball
- used a real gun
- shaving my head
- a total of 10 piercings .. no tattoo :(
- a guitar player
- a pianist
- a poet
- music composer ( i try :p )
- haunted house breaking( thanks to sho0osh :s )
- ate a couple of fried insects ( worms, cockroaches, grasshoppers ) --> crispy yet very salty :s
- travelled : china , thailand , sri lanka , dubai , bahrain , suadia arabia , oman , syria, egypt , poland , czeck , canada, USA , mexico
-a language freak : arabic, english, french ( which i forgot :P ) , spanish,
- been on a submarine
- been on a public bus
- been on a ship
- been on a train
- played a ouija board
- animal freak: had all kind of pets : cats, dogs, hamsters , squirrls, lizards, turtles , frogs , rabbits , birds, fish , parrots ...
- likes suhsi --> TO ALOT OF PPL, eating raw food IS something
- volunteered in alot of places like kaach, down syndrome
- did puppet shows : i laughed most of da time :P, kids comments r halirious
- been a stage :P
- dyed my hair blue
- saw death 9 times so far
- died once : well my heart stopped for almost a minute :s
- been on a mountain above the clouds
-blessed by da buddha :P well the monk , he actually spitted on me :s sayin this was a blessing .. i think he was layin :S
- been to church ... im muslim btw
- wore a dress with full make up --> to me, this is something that happens once in a blue moon :P
- travelled on my own
- donated blood
- been to the morgue , seen dead bodies
- been on a psych hospital ( NOT ADMITTED :p )
this list could go on forever but id rather keep the rest to myself :P
i know exactly what kind of image you have about me now that u read that list but trust me, you're WRONG .. you'll be amazed to see what kind of a person i am .. totally different of what you think :P
things to do :
- safari trip
- seeing the world on foot
- swimming with da dolphins n turtles.
- dive with the sharks
- fly a jet
-going to outter space
- being lost in a jungle
- a real camping trip
- going to bermuda traingle
- snow boarding
- milk a cow ...
- chase a chicken
- raise a chimp
- a high pool dive
- ride an osterich
- go to the north pole
- live in the amazon
- be part of doctors without borders
- speak 7 languages by the age of 30
- practice xtreme sports
Insanity Has NO limit ;)
- 30th of march 1985 - ?? of ???? 20?? ... ( with that level of insanity, i'll doubt i'll make it to 2020 alive :P )
- a dare devil, a rules breaker, too wild , too insane, has no limit ...
- Achievements :
- sky dive
- lived on my own
- scuba diving license
- 50 meter bungy jump
- 5 times skycoaster jumps
- wall climbing
- hiking
- white water rafting
- parachut jump
- paintball
- used a real gun
- shaving my head
- a total of 10 piercings .. no tattoo :(
- a guitar player
- a pianist
- a poet
- music composer ( i try :p )
- haunted house breaking( thanks to sho0osh :s )
- ate a couple of fried insects ( worms, cockroaches, grasshoppers ) --> crispy yet very salty :s
- travelled : china , thailand , sri lanka , dubai , bahrain , suadia arabia , oman , syria, egypt , poland , czeck , canada, USA , mexico
-a language freak : arabic, english, french ( which i forgot :P ) , spanish,
- been on a submarine
- been on a public bus
- been on a ship
- been on a train
- played a ouija board
- animal freak: had all kind of pets : cats, dogs, hamsters , squirrls, lizards, turtles , frogs , rabbits , birds, fish , parrots ...
- likes suhsi --> TO ALOT OF PPL, eating raw food IS something
- volunteered in alot of places like kaach, down syndrome
- did puppet shows : i laughed most of da time :P, kids comments r halirious
- been a stage :P
- dyed my hair blue
- saw death 9 times so far
- died once : well my heart stopped for almost a minute :s
- been on a mountain above the clouds
-blessed by da buddha :P well the monk , he actually spitted on me :s sayin this was a blessing .. i think he was layin :S
- been to church ... im muslim btw
- wore a dress with full make up --> to me, this is something that happens once in a blue moon :P
- travelled on my own
- donated blood
- been to the morgue , seen dead bodies
- been on a psych hospital ( NOT ADMITTED :p )
this list could go on forever but id rather keep the rest to myself :P
i know exactly what kind of image you have about me now that u read that list but trust me, you're WRONG .. you'll be amazed to see what kind of a person i am .. totally different of what you think :P
things to do :
- safari trip
- seeing the world on foot
- swimming with da dolphins n turtles.
- dive with the sharks
- fly a jet
-going to outter space
- being lost in a jungle
- a real camping trip
- going to bermuda traingle
- snow boarding
- milk a cow ...
- chase a chicken
- raise a chimp
- a high pool dive
- ride an osterich
- go to the north pole
- live in the amazon
- be part of doctors without borders
- speak 7 languages by the age of 30
- practice xtreme sports
Insanity Has NO limit ;)
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