'' Be the last to raise your voice ''
shouting in any form is a bad thing, a sign that i have lost control and that i lost the argument .
the son of vicar saw his father's sermon notes and in the margin he had pencilled, '' shout here, argument is weak '' and i think this just about sums it all up
there are two situation where people lose their temper, justified and manipulative. the 1st where you run over their foot with your car and refuse to apologize. in this situation, they are allowed to shout. the 2nd situation is where people use anger to get their own way, a sort of black mail. you're allowed to ignore them and not allowed to shout back.
people who dont shout are known to be incredibily calm no matter whats happening, calm people get trusted , calm people get relied on, calm people get looked up to and given responsibility . calm people last longer
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i always believed that in an argument, dont feed the fire with more wood .. just let them shout their lungs out and then once they release all that anger, you'll find out that they will be more willing to listen and then u can do your talking.
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hmm.. i never bother to shout or argue back? is that bad??
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