Rule 4

Accept your self

'' whats done is done, you cant go back and change anything so you gotta work on what you've got which is ur self ... accept it ''

'' you don't have to improve or change or strive for perfection, quite the opposite, just accept and that includes all the warts and emotional lumps and bumps and weaknesses and the rest of it ''

'' accept some days you arent going to make it. some days you will , like all of us, fall far short and thats ok. dont beat yourself up. pick yourself up and start again. accept that you will fail from time to time and that you are human ''

'' stop giving yourself a hard time, instead accept that you are what you are abd you're doing the best you can at this point in time, so give yourself a pat on the back and press on ''

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you don;t need to be perfect .. being good is just enough
you will fail and that doesn\t mean that you are lacking something or that you need to change or something, its just part of life .. even the best fall down sometimes
you are who you are and thats just good enough

Rule 3

Accept whats done is done

'' sometimes people make mistakes or behave badly towards you, it wasnt necessarily because they meant to be horrid, but because they were as naive as foolish as human as the rest of us,they didnt do it that way because they wanted it to be like this but simply, they didnt know any better ''

'' accept whats done is done, don't label them as '' bad '', embrace them as character forming and in general as a positive thing rather than nagative ''

'' if you want more out of this life, embrace all the bad things as being as important part of you and move on, you wouldn't be who you are today if you didn't go through them ''

'' if i was given the choice, i wouldn't change a thing , yes looking back, it was tough being the kid i was, living the life i did but it has certainly helped make me, me ''

'' i think the change occured once i realized tat even if i could in front of all the people who had done me wrong , there would still be nothing they could do . i could shout at them, rant at them but there would be nothing they could do to put things right ''

'' life goes on, there is no going backward, only forward .. keep moving forward ''

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the only way to forget is to forgive :)

Rule 2: You'll get older but not necessarily wiser

'' theres an assumption that as we get older, we will get wiser; not true. the rule is we carry on being just as daft and still making plenty of mistakes, its just we make NEW ones, different ones. we do learn from exprience and may not make the same mistakes again, but there's a whole new pickle jar of fresh ones just laying in wait for us to trip and fall into ''

'' the secret is to accept this and dont beat yourself up when u do make new ones. be forgiving and accept that its all part of that growing older but not wiser routine ''

'' wisdon isnt about not making mistakes, but about learning to escape afterwards with our dignity and sanity intact ''

'' after all, the more mistakes you've made, the less likely you\ll come up with new ones, so the best thing is that if you get alot of mistakes done with early on life, there will be less to learn the hard way later on ''

'' thats what youth is all about, a chance to make all the mistakes you can and get them out of the way ''
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i really love how it makes u think of mistakes .. making a mistake isnt something bad AT ALL .. mistakes means learning, learning means improvement, improvement is making a better you :) and there is no such a thing as a perfect person, YOU WILL MAKE MISTAKES untill the very last moment because u can never learn enough and there will always be more to learn in this life .. so go ahead and make mistakes, u wouldn't be who u are if u didnt make em ..

The The Rules Of Life By Richard Templar :

this is one of the greatest books i've ever read .. you know, i don't believe in rules and self improvement and stuff but this book indeed opens ur eyes to alot of things you were not aware of you .. anyway i decided to share one lesson with u every day and there are 100 lessons here so lol u'll be hanging around here for a while , i mean if ur interested :P

Rule One : Keep it under your hat
'' keep quiet, no one likes a smart arse ''
'' we all hare being preached at so don't preach, propagate, even mention it , its a bit like when you give up smoking and you suddenly find this new heathier way of living and you want to convert all of your old smoking friends, trouble is, they aren't ready to quit yet and you find they label you as a smug or a prig and we all hate those ''

'' if anyone asks you a thing, just give them a simple answer, there's no need to go into details because its not what people want to know .. its a bit like when some one asks you how you are, what they want to really hear is one word '' fine '', even if you're in the bits of despair .. thats all they wanna hear because anything more than that requires committment on their part. if you don't say fine and u start unburden your self , they will back off pretty quickly . ''

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so don't ever talk as if you know everything .. if its a simple question, u give a simple answer .. no need to prove to the world that you're the smart pants here .. and don't talk about the things you are or the things u can do, some people might find this very interesting but most of people will get you wrong and would think of you as a snob .. so KEEP IT UNDER YOUR HAT, no body needs to know anything UNLESS they ask for it