In anger management, there's this golden rule of '' counting 'till 10 before saying/doing anything '' . i've always laughed at it! I mean seriously, who would think about counting when you're so damn pissed off and i've considered it a crappy rule until today ..
you know, I LOVE MAKING MISTAKES, i really do enjoy them because, I end up learning different things .. yeah sometimes the price can be really expensive but in the long term, you'll get it all payed back with even capital '' fa2da '' .
Today, I proved my self wrong and i'm glad that I did :D ... I was invited for f6or over my aunt's house and i told her i'd prepare the salad ( fattah ) and the dessert ( mango cake ) . so i told the maid to cut and fry the eggplants for me since I'm busy working on my cake. It was already 5:10pm (f6or is at 5:40 ) when i was done from the cake and i went to check on my fattah and i was so shocked when i saw that the maid didn't do anything. i got really pissed and i started preparing everything quickly.. i had less than an hour to do the fattah, to shower and get dressed and be there at my aunt's house ( which is 15 min away ) SO AS U CAN SEE, I WAS RUNNING LOW ON TIME and i was all stressed and pissed .. so while i was cooking the stuff, i asked the maid to get me corn from the fridge so she started bringing out different stuff, tomatoes, olives, green pepper .. I GOT FURIOUS coz i was SO LATE and she was driving me even crazier .. when i was about to explode and scream, that little voice inside my head remainded me of the 10count rule ... 1..2..3..4..5..6..7..8..9..10 .. and right after that, i REALIZED something. the maid is NOT stupid, simply .. she's just new .. she came to kuwait less than a month ago .. she doesn't speak arabic or english.. she doesn't know what the hell CORN is.. SO IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW, you can't expect her to know what you didn't tell her .. so instead of yelling, i held her by her hand and took her to the fridge and showed her what corn is, what green pepper is, what olives are .. that's all she needed .. she didnt need to be yelled at .. its not her fault that she couldn't speak arabic and it wouldn't have helped any of us if i yelled ..
how many of you ever done that ? yelling at maids and calling them stupid because they didn't get what we are trying to say? haven't you ever thought about the possibility that it could be your fault ? maybe you didn't say it our clearly, or maybe she didn't understand what you wanted .. THEY CAN'T READ YOUR MIND AND THEY CAN'T COOK IT THE SAME WAY U DO!
I'm just so proud of my self that i didn't give in to anger, that i chose to teach instead of to yell. i've kept my cool and she added new voc to her dictionary .. its a win win deal :D
'' if you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundered days of sorrow ''..
learn how to be patient, how to see through the situation , there's always a lesson to learn
when you're angry, close your eyes, count till 10 and open them again and you'll be amazed of how differently you'll see the same situation :D
you doubt it ? why not give it a try ;) ?
Monday, September 29, 2008
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2 comments:
Awwww *hugs*
i am so proud of you :D
Wallah it is true, we usually jump into anger mode without looking into the fact of the situation..
LOOOOOL i have a bad habit of yelling at maids but only when they do really really stupid stuff. like once i was on my way to the gym and i forgot my socks and i called the maid and told her to bring me white socks to the car downstairs. she came with pink socks so i yelled. and i was like what did i say and she said socks and i asked her what i said exactly and she said white socks and then she looked at the pink socks and started giggling like a one toothed buffoon.
baby steps baby steps. LOOOOL
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